Politeness isn't the only characteristic that a man needs to be seen as a gentleman in today's society, according to a new book.
There are also tips on what to do when you have "pulled" and advice for the bedroom written by an anonymous woman.
As well as these important topics, the Debrett's Guide for the Modern Gentleman also offers advice for men who want to brush up on t
heir manners and etiquette, bullet-proof their car, choose the right underwear and even want a bluffer's guide to the opera .
The 192-page guide has advice from experts on such areas as grooming, shoes, chivalry, what paint to choose for the ultimate bachelor pad, extreme sport challenges for men and social tips for talking to women.
SnappyThe book has contributions from more than 30 writers and experts and took more than a year to plan and write.
Jo Bryant, editor of the guide, said: "It's all short, snappy bits of information. It's short and to the point.
"It's an ultimate celebration of all things male ranging from gastronomy and travel to how to bullet-proof your car.
"There is something in here for absolutely everyone."
Being a modern gentleman might require a lot of knowledge, but it need not cost the earth, according to Mrs Bryant.
She said: "You can make it as expensive or cheap as you like.
"It's not just about being polite. It's more about natural finesse and charm.
"It's about being the guy people want to be around.
"It's probably the first really fun and light-hearted book that Debrett has done. It's a compendium of masculinity."
She said the most surprising discovery from focus groups of men and experts was how important they thought the way you looked was, and how acceptable it is now for males to have facials and manicures.
Debrett's Guide for the Modern Gentleman is available through Debrett's website, the Amazon website and book stores including Waterstone's.
Gentlemen's rules1 Never suck in your stomach when being measured for a suit – you will regret it for every day after that
2 Do stand when a woman enters the room but don't overdo it and become a Jack In The Box
3 Never take calls or read texts on a date
4 Shoes should be round-toed. Pointy is so over
5 Asparagus, coffee and figs are all said to be aphrodisiac foods
6 Jeans should be classic or skinny, never tailored
7 Every man should own a suit carrier, a leather holdall and a messenger bag
8 Noise carries further on water – never make disparaging comments while on a yacht
9 Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye is a suitable song for seduction
10 An engagement ring should cost twice your monthly salary.
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